“I think I will come to Aunt Jan’s birthday party”
“Fantastic. She will be so happy to see you. Will you take your car?”
“No. I thought I could have a few drinks to celebrate her birthday.”
“But you are 4 weeks sober. You have been doing so well”
“I can have a few. Remember who the Mother is here. You can’t control me”
“Mum, please do not come tonight if this is going to be your attitude. Aunt Jan doesn’t need this just now. Don’t come if you are drinking”
You ruined so much that night. The entire party I was on edge, waiting for you to tumble through the door like you have done so many times before. The life and soul but shooting your family sly digs where you can to remind us just how shit you think we are.
Thankfully, unlikely so many times before, you didn’t show. Relief.
But we all knew what was going on. You were either going to show up, cause a scene and ruin everyone’s night as we Nanny you, or sit at home, drink and undo all the good work that you have put into being sober.
I understand that in our family there are so many examples of family members who have been able to drink in moderation before there habits stirred up. However, we know that won’t work for you.
The professionals have said it. Mum, please listen. Please do not drink.