Coping Strategies
Living with an abusive or alcoholic partner can feel very isolating and confusing, but there are things you can do to help you cope with the situation, such as:
- Keep a diary, so you can record what’s happening should you need it later
- Talk to friends and family so you have a strong support system
- Take care of yourself – eat well, try to get plenty of sleep and be mindful of your mental health. If you feel you are becoming depressed, speak to your doctor
- Look after your finances – if you need to get away in a hurry, you will need cash. Try to save a little bit of money every week if you can, so if you need emergency transport or accommodation you can pay for it
- Make time for things you enjoy – even going for a walk in the sunshine, having a long bubble bath or listening to music can give you a boost and help you stay positive
- Join a support group or online forum for people living with abuse or alcoholism. Just talking to other people in the same situation can give you the strength to get through the day or make positive changes
- Seek advice from a national support organisation, such as Scottish Women’s Aid, Abused Men in Scotland or Scotland’s Domestic Abuse and Forced Marriage Helpline
Always remember: you have the right to a happy, safe life free from abuse. Even if it feels impossible, you can find the strength to change your life with the right support and a positive attitude. Help is out there, so don’t be afraid to use it and always take good care of yourself.