Living With FASD – Strategies For Parents
If you have just learned that your child has Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD), you may well be feeling a lot of different emotions. Anger, confusion, loss and guilt are all common among parents whose children have been diagnosed with FASD, but there are strategies you can use to make life easier. It’s important to focus not on the past, but on the present, and how you can support your child’s future development. With the right support and early intervention, children with FASD can go on to live happy and fulfilling lives, particularly when they come from a loving family home.
What you need to know
- Early diagnosis is essential. If you suspect FASD but this has not been confirmed, talk to your midwife or doctor straight away
- Studies have shown that children with FASD are more likely to have mental health problems or addictions in later life, so always be aware of the signs and where to get support
- Although there is no cure for FASD, by working in partnership with your GP, midwife and school you can dramatically lower the impact of its symptoms
- A child with FASD may be challenging at times, but it’s always worth the work
Tips For Supporting Your Child With FASD
- Children with FASD are more successful in life when they come from a nurturing, loving home, so make love and understanding your biggest priority
- Create a loving, ordered environment with clear boundaries and routines
- Talk to teachers and other caregivers about their specific needs
- Give them access to medical and support services
- Teach through repetition
- Use a calm, clear voice when explaining things
- Read and sing together
- Use pictures as well as words – many children with FASD are visual learners
- Break tasks down into simple steps
- Give positive feedback and praise
- Allow longer times on specific tasks
- Set a clear schedule with regular reminders
Tips For Supporting Your Teen With FASD
- Establish clear boundaries
- Encourage independence
- Work in partnership with school
- Give set tasks around the house
- Talk openly about sexual health, alcohol and drugs
- Promote money management and budgeting skills
- Keep an eye on friendship groups
- Help secure part time work
- Remove triggers
- Pay attention to non-verbal communication
- Establish realistic goals and targets
- Work closely with school and docs
…and crucially, take care of yourself! Parenting isn’t easy, and it can be even more challenging when your child has been diagnosed with FASD. Don’t be afraid to ask for support and take time out for yourself when you can. When you’re refreshed and calm, you’ll be more able to take on the world together!